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2. Takes turns

C.1.2

2. Compromises to work together

C.2.2

2. Accepts waiting one's turn

C.3.2

4. Understands that there is a purpose to roles within the group
5. Able to choose group members
6. Understands how group members contribute

C.4.4
C.4.5
C.4.6

2. Helps others with prompting and guidance

C.5.2

2. Can tell why one feels fear, anger, sadness, mistrust, and disgust

A.1.2

2. Can recognize situations when there is a need to ask for help

A.2.2

2. Can explain reasons for one's actions
3. Gives an honest answer or opinion when asked

A.3.2
A.3.3

3. Speaks positively about oneself when faced with a challenge

A.4.3

4. Shows awareness of what’s right and fair

A.5.4

2. Able to say no to things with negative consequences

A.6.2

2. Accepts assigned responsibilities without sulking

R.1.2

3. Can apologize, without prompting, when a mistake or poor decision has been made

R.2.3

4. Aware that an individual’s actions can contribute to sustaining, improving, or diminishing the quality of life in the community

R.3.4

4. Routinely keeps track of personal items
5. Cares for and organizes personal belongings

R.4.4
R.4.5

2. Can identify joy, sadness, and anger in oneself
3. Recognizes joy, sadness, and anger in others, through verbal and nonverbal cues

E.1.2
E.1.3

3. Proactively includes others who are similar to and different from oneself

E.2.3

2. Sees the importance of celebrations or cultural events for one's family or communities

E.3.2

3. Listens and waits one's turn to speak

E.4.3

2. Works to bring behavior or social interactions in line with known standards

S.1.2

2. Can recognize when a specific thought or feeling has become an earworm

S.2.2

3. Recognizes urges to behave in a silly, distracting, or socially unacceptable way

S.3.3

2. Able to use wonder and curiosity as tools for staying engaged in challenging work
3. Able to use one’s imagination to identify different ways to achieve the same thing

S.4.2
S.4.3

3. Not mean when interacting with others

C.1.3

3. Recognizes when group goal is worthy of being prioritized over dislike for tasks needed to reach the goal
4. Accepts when one's ideas presented to a group are not used
5. Includes others in one's thinking process

C.2.3
C.2.4
C.2.5

3. Willing to independently resolve conflicts with peers

C.3.3

7. Willing to change roles in the group
8. Joins group in timely manner as it forms
9. Can remind peers to stay focused

C.4.7
C.4.8
C.4.9

3. Helps with less desirable tasks and activities when asked

C.5.3

3. Listens to the ideas and opinions of others despite strong emotions

A.1.3

3. Willing to seek help and advocacy from adults

A.2.3

4. Can recognize the value in being open and honest with others

A.3.4

4. Can see positive possibilities when faced with a challenge or disappointment

A.4.4

5. Able to connect morally right choices to specific outcomes

A.5.5

3. Able to take the initiative to work toward a positive outcome

A.6.3

3. Able to identify how one's actions may affect oneself and others

R.1.3

4. Avoids blaming others for their actions or behaviors in order to avoid consequences

R.2.4

5. Aware that there are institutions whose purpose is to serve the good of all people in the community
6. Helps others to feel a sense of belonging in the community

R.3.5
R.3.6

6. Recognizes the consequences of not caring for or misplacing personal belongings and can act more responsibly the next time
7. Asks before using another person’s property or belongings

R.4.6
R.4.7

4. Recognizes that feelings of disgust are a signal that something is wrong

E.1.4

4. Accepts that people with experiences different from them are still equal to them

E.2.4

3. Aware that there are celebrations or cultural events
that happen among people who are different from oneself that are as significant in meaning as one’s own

E.3.3

4. Typically displays unselfish behavior
5. Typically shows kindness and caring
6. Stops behavior when another person says to stop

E.4.4
E.4.5
E.4.6

3. Aligns behavior or social interactions to known expectations or social standards for a given situation

S.1.3

3. Exhibits ability to stop self from dwelling on negative thoughts and feelings

S.2.3

4. Can make the connection between socially unacceptable behaviors and their impact on oneself and others

S.3.4

4. Demonstrates a belief that doing one’s best will lead to success
5. Able to confidently share hopes and dreams with friends

S.4.4
S.4.5

4. Able to expand friendships outside of established ones

C.1.4

6. Accepts group failure without blaming others

C.2.6

4. Willing to reach mutually agreeable solutions through conversation

C.3.4

10. Participates well as a member of the group regardless of one's role
11. Participates well as a member of the group regardless of the roles of others

C.4.10
C.4.11

4. Recognizes how completing some tasks can positively affect classroom peers

C.5.4

4. Can identify stress in oneself

A.1.4

4. Unafraid to ask for help with learning
5. Knows how to ask for help when feeling fearful or unsafe

A.2.4
A.2.5

5. Tells the truth when asked to explain their actions

A.3.5

5. Completes work from start to finish without giving up

A.4.5

6. When faced with a choice, makes the morally right decision

A.5.6

4. Avoids speaking or acting in ways that can be hurtful to others
5. Refuses to agree to things that make them uncomfortable

A.6.4
A.6.5

4. Sets own reminders to honor responsibilities or meet expectations
5. Can explain the difference in outcomes of a good choice and a bad choice

R.1.4
R.1.5

5. Does not justify one's wrongful actions based on the wrongful actions of others
6. Takes responsibility for actions and accepts consequences
7. Follows the rules even if one disagrees with them

R.2.5
R.2.6
R.2.7

7. Aware that communicating with online strangers can lead to real-life dangers
8. Understands that expectations for respect are the same online as in person

R.3.7
R.3.8

8. Understands that damaging property is disrespectful and harms the whole community

R.4.8

5. Makes the connection between anticipation with anxiety and feeling stressed

E.1.5

5. Values the points of view of others

E.2.5

4. Recognizes that differences in cultural norms do not lessen the value of people from those cultures

E.3.4

7. Listens carefully to others
8. Rephrases what others say to ensure one understood what one heard

E.4.7
E.4.8

4. Understands and can explain why the social, behavioral, or moral standards in a given situation are important to follow

S.1.4

4. Puts in the effort to remain calm and focused when handling strong emotions or uncomfortable feelings

S.2.4

5. Identifies the value of delayed gratification

S.3.5

6. Uses hopeful thinking as a motivator for successfully completing challenging tasks
7. Supports friends and peers in achieving their hopes

S.4.6
S.4.7

5. Puts others first when appropriate
6. Disagrees without sulking

C.1.5
C.1.6

7. Displays sportsmanship in competition
8. Approach to competition is not detrimental to others

C.2.7
C.2.8

5. Uses conflict resolution techniques to independently resolve conflict with peers

C.3.5

12. Effectively communicates with all members of the group

C.4.12

5. Sees the benefit to helping others outside the classroom

C.5.5

5. Able to express oneself in difficult or stressful moments

A.1.5

6. Asks for help even if feeling embarrassed or ashamed

A.2.6

6. Admits mistakes and missteps

A.3.6

6. Accepts failure as a part of learning
7. Does not quit after making a mistake

A.4.6
A.4.7

7. Tries different approaches when things don’t go as expected

A.5.7

6. Can recognize when decisions are negatively influencing peers or making them uncomfortable

A.6.6

6. Makes choices demonstrating that safety is important for oneself and others

R.1.6

8. Can apologize for harm done to others

R.2.8

9. Recognizes that cyberbullying can be as hurtful as in-person bullying
10. Understands that the digital world is real and that digital content cannot be erased
11. Cares about helping others

R.3.9
R.3.10
R.3.11

9. Can explain the expectations of community service agents (police, firefighters, etc.) to help protect property
10. Can explain that laws and rules are designed to protect property

R.4.9
R.4.10

6. Recognizes fear, trust, and mistrust in others through verbal and nonverbal cues
7. Names when one is feeling strong emotions such as outrage, grief, boredom, distraction, fear, or mistrust

E.1.6
E.1.7

6. Can see from and understand the perspective of someone who is different from oneself

E.2.6

5. Recognizes that differences in culture can create differences in verbal and nonverbal communication

E.3.5

9. Avoids activities such as gossiping that can hurt others
10. Can determine when one should report behavior such as bullying or safety threats that might harm others

E.4.9
E.4.10

5. Able to distinguish between emotions of fear, mistrust, anger, and disgust created from the social environment and those created internally.

S.1.5

5. Can use strategies to prevent obsessive or habitual thoughts and feelings from derailing behavior

S.2.5

6. Can positively distract oneself in order to improve ability to wait for a desired thing

S.3.6

8. Can see how belief in one’s own ability to achieve a hope or goal is connected to one’s likelihood to achieve it

S.4.8

7. Able to identify the characteristics of healthy friendships

C.1.7

9. Able to identify one's strengths and how they connect to the group task

C.2.9

6. Uses conflict resolution techniques to resolve problems that involves the whole class

C.3.6

13. Listens to understand rather than to respond

C.4.13

6. Helps others without expecting something in return

C.5.6

6. Able to get along with others even when one is disagreed with

A.1.6

7. Seeks help when unable to resolve conflict with peers

A.2.7

7. Can explore how opinions are shaped
8. Can explore how opinions shape one’s interactions with others

A.3.7
A.3.8

8. Does not quit after failing to meet a goal
9. Willing to put in effort to work through difficulties on one's own

A.4.8
A.4.9

8. Can advocate on behalf of oneself with peers or adults
9. Can advocate for others with peers or adults

A.5.8
A.5.9

7. Makes decisions independent of peer influence
8. Chooses to use one's time in ways that will help achieve a goal

A.6.7
A.6.8

7. Recognizes and avoids situations that can harm oneself and others

R.1.7

9. Understands what is required to fulfill one's responsibilities and commitments

R.2.9

12. Avoids spreading gossip or negative images online

R.3.12

11. Respects the rights of ownership; doesn’t steal, trespass on, or damage other people’s property

R.4.11

8. Acknowledges that external conditions can impact emotions or behaviors

E.1.8

7. Recognizes that behaviors intended to hurt or shame others who are different can evoke feelings of disgust

E.2.7

6. Can see how belonging to more than one cultural group can cause internal conflict and tension

E.3.6

11. Extends efforts toward the needs of others for the greater good

E.4.11

6. Able to express anger in a way that maintains a successful trajectory

S.1.6

6. Puts in effort to calm or cheer oneself

S.2.6

7. Able to remove oneself from temptations that would derail one’s success

S.3.7

9. Willingly sets or accepts goals that require effort to achieve
10. Can independently imagine pathways or tactics to achieve one’s hopes or goals

S.4.9
S.4.10

8. Understands the ups and downs that come with maintaining a friendship

C.1.8

10. Motivated to do one's part when completing a group task

C.2.10

7. Acts as a mediator to diffuse conflicts between peers

C.3.7

14. Knows how to use humor appropriately
15. Can seek help for oneself or others to move the group forward

C.4.14
C.4.15

7. Knows how much help to offer in a specific situation
8. Can communicate why there are limitations in offering help in a specific situation

C.5.7
C.5.8

7. Recognizes the need for and sets firm boundaries for oneself and others

A.1.7

8. Seeks help with matters important to one's overall well-being

A.2.8

9. Can form an opinion while being open to the perspective of others

A.3.9

10. Resists labeling oneself as a failure because of past actions or opinions of others
11. Shows belief in one's abilities

A.4.10
A.4.11

10. Can understand how one's mistakes produce specific outcomes

A.5.10

9. Able to connect specific behaviors to negative consequences

A.6.9

8. Aware of internal conflicts that occur when choosing from two desirable options
9. Can weigh pros and cons between immediate gratification and long-term consequences

R.1.8
R.1.9

10. Recognizes a situation where they will not meet expectations and seeks to resolve it before it becomes a problem

R.2.10

13. Maintains and protects digital reputation
14. Recognizes that online activity creates a permanent digital footprint and reputation
15. Can connect rights and privileges to responsibilities

R.3.13
R.3.14
R.3.15

12. Recognizes when an area has been neglected and the causes of the neglect
13. Can describe a course of action to take if someone witnesses the damaging or stealing of property

R.4.12
R.4.13

9. Manages strong emotions to avoid hurting oneself or others

E.1.9

8. Respects people who are different from what is typical and customary for oneself
9. Shows empathy while still holding people accountable for acceptable behaviors
10. Acknowledges that all people deserve respect, safety, and equal opportunity

E.2.8
E.2.9
E.2.10

7. Understands why an individual has a responsibility to honor one's cultural norms
8. Understands why an individual can be at odds with one's cultural norms

E.3.7
E.3.8

12. Shows appreciation for a kindness extended to oneself

E.4.12

7. Can determine when being successful in a specific situation requires a shift in behavior or social activity
8. Can determine what is right or wrong in a given situation and respond in the right manner

S.1.7
S.1.8

7. Can typically refocus negative feelings toward a positive purpose

S.2.7

8. Can use self-talk to build stamina for controlling impulses or waiting
9. Understands the connections between impulse control, resisting temptation and urges, and achieving a goal

S.3.8
S.3.9

11. Connects achieving a goal to one's personal efforts and abilities
12. Can visualize and explain a desired goal or end point
13. Knows if one's hopes or goals are to move toward a particular outcome or to move away from a less desirable outcome
14. Accepts guidance and support for successful pursuit of a goal

S.4.11
S.4.12
S.4.13
S.4.14

9. Behaves respectfully toward all peers

C.1.9

11. Puts in same effort for group success as for individual success
12. Helps others when in need
13. Open to new ideas and able to weigh their value

C.2.11
C.2.12
C.2.13

8. Knows when to seek adult help to resolve conflicts with others

C.3.8

16. Recognizes when to contribute to a conversation and when to just listen

C.4.16

9. Recognizes how opportunities to help others relates to one’s personal interest

C.5.9

8. Listens to opposing opinions of others openly

A.1.8

9. Seeks help to remove barriers to personal goals

A.2.9

10. Expresses opinions even when feeling left out or unheard

A.3.10

12. Sees failure as a part of the growth process

A.4.12

11. Can name one's strengths and weaknesses
12. Can recognize and accurately describe emotions to inform actions
13. Works to rectify one's mistakes

A.5.11
A.5.12
A.5.13

10. Able to say no to temptations with long-term negative consequences

A.6.10

10. Understands how personal choices have an impact on consequences

R.1.10

11. Recognizes passive-aggressive behaviors in themselves
12. Typically practices open and direct communication rather than demonstrating passive-aggressive behaviors
13. Can manage the inner conflict between being passive and communicating openly when one disagrees with something or someone

R.2.11
R.2.12
R.2.13

16. Avoids using hate speech and angry or vulgar words in one's online communication
17. Knows that flirting and chatting with strangers online presents real-life danger
18. Recognizes that people can misrepresent themselves and their intentions online
19. Doesn’t keep secrets with a person one met online
20. Understands volunteering as a way to improve and contribute to the community

R.3.16
R.3.17
R.3.18
R.3.19
R.3.20

14. Considers the feelings of others when handling or using one's property or belongings
15. Respects the rights of others to do with one's property as one sees fit

R.4.14
R.4.15

10. Shows compassion for peers who are dealing with a range of emotions.

E.1.10

11. Understands how culture affects behavior and attitudes

E.2.11

9. Respects cultural norms of people with whom one is interacting
10. Accepts the limitations of participating in cultural norms of another group

E.3.9
E.3.10

13. Sees oneself as a potential agent of change for good in the world
14. Stops behavior whether the request to stop is explicit or implied
15. Recognizes when it is important to reaffirm permission when prior permission has been granted

E.4.13
E.4.14
E.4.15

9. Can take and logically defend a position on why and when social, behavioral, or moral standards in a given situation are important to follow

S.1.9

8. Can use strategies to reduce internal and interpersonal conflicts that rise from feelings of fear, mistrust, anger, and disgust

S.2.8

10. Uses fun and social connection to improve ability to wait for a desired thing
11. Typically avoids reacting to temptations or urges that would derail achieving a goal

S.3.10
S.3.11

15. Examines progress on a task or activity to decide what to do in order to be successful
16. Works to build the ability needed for goal attainment

S.4.15
S.4.16

10. Accepts constructive criticism from peers

C.1.10

14. Works with others on a shared goal even when one disagrees on other matters

C.2.14

9. Willing to reach a compromise when conflicts arise with an individual
10. Willing to reach a compromise when conflicts arise within a group

C.3.9
C.3.10

17. Can problem-solve for oneself or others to move the group forward
18. Can be animated and passionate about a topic without disrupting the group’s progress

C.4.17
C.4.18

10. Extends altruistic intentions to global or societal issues

C.5.10

9. Able to disagree with an adult logically, passionately, and respectfully

A.1.9

10. Seeks help with plans for the future

A.2.10

12. Diplomatically shares ideas and opinions on controversial issues

A.3.11

13. Connects the idea of challenge to growth

A.4.13

14. Able to take the initiative to have a positive effect on societal inequalities

A.5.14

11. Able to make choices that foster personal pride

A.6.11

11. Can resolve internal conflicts that come with making the best choice
12. Makes choices that reflect understanding of long-term consequences

R.1.11
R.1.12

14. Honors words, commitments, and responsibilities even when doing so requires a personal sacrifice
15. Can apologize for harm done to others without justifying the harmful action

R.2.14
R.2.15

21. Can distinguish between posts that harm an online reputation and posts that do not
22. Refrains from responding online or in emails out of anger
23. Can participate constructively in dialogues on social justice issues
24. Understands the role of activism in changing social injustices

R.3.21
R.3.22
R.3.23
R.3.24

16. Takes care of property in school, out of school, and in the community

R.4.16

11. Recognizes emotional triggers
12. Applies coping techniques to manage emotions

E.1.11
E.1.12

12. Recognizes that culture shapes personal perspective and identity

E.2.12

11. Able to maintain a positive personal identity despite potentially negative stereotypes of culture or group identity

E.3.11

16. Forgives and avoids holding grudges
17. Shows commitment to healthy friendships

E.4.16
E.4.17

10. Responds to surprise or change in a focused and interested manner
11. Is typically able to promptly bring behavior or social interactions in line with known standards

S.1.10
S.1.11

9. Can break the loop of obsessive thoughts before they lead to an undesirable emotional or behavioral outcome

S.2.9

12. Can typically use knowledge of oneself to prevent temptations, impulses, and urges from blocking achievement of a goal

S.3.12

17. Considers and selects alternative ways to succeed at a challenging task or activity
18. Uses strategies to maintain optimism and confidence in one's ability to achieve a goal in the face of barriers

S.4.17
S.4.18